Online dating what not to do

Today, 12% of 55- to 64-year-olds report ever using an online dating site or mobile dating app versus only 6% in 2013.

So you’ve taken the plunge—the online dating plunge. You’ve discussed the activities and interests that are meaningful to you and that you hope to find in potential mates. I know, I cringe just thinking of saying it because it doesn’t feel good to hear at a time like this. Finding love in the midst of desperation, self-doubt and urgency will not serve your quest for love.

(Though, in that respect, I guess I do have e Harmony and Match to thank for my writing career.) Armed with years of slow-churned cynicism, I took to the internet to see if others shared my experiences.

What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.

The share of 18- to 24-year-olds who use online dating has roughly tripled from 10% in 2013 to 27% today.

Online dating use among 55- to 64-year-olds has also risen substantially since the last Pew Research Center survey on the topic.

Here are five facts about online dating: Online dating has lost much of its stigma, and a majority of Americans now say online dating is a good way to meet people.

It starts to hit you, you haven’t heard back from any of these exciting, seemingly-perfect matches. And then the “fun part” seems like a distant mirage to your heart.

It feels hurt, rejected and hopeless about ever finding love.

You are excited about the profiles that seem to fit what you are looking for. There are still single people out there who seem pretty “normal,” and are interested in the same things as me! This is the part that your friends and family, who all urged you to try online dating, didn’t tell you about—what to do when no one responds to your messages.

You started browsing others’ profiles for what seemed like hours. You saw a few profiles that really stood out to you and thought, “I will give it a go and send him/her a message.” The next day comes and you send a few more, and send a few more every day for a week or so. Believe it or not, most people have felt this roller coaster of excitement and also felt let down if they’ve been giving online dating a solid chance.

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